3 Ways YOU Can Be As Independent As A Biker Babe
by Cathryn Cade
July 14, 2022
My name is Cathryn and I write about biker babes and their men. The Devil’s Flyers are bad ass, but they’re not the bad guys, more rough-cut knights of the road. They are pure alpha, and their women must be strong to claim their respect.
I love writing about these feisty biker babes, but I’m far from being one. I’m a wife, a mother, a grandma, a teacher-librarian, and a writer. A sometime traveler, though an SUV or motorhome is more my speed.
But hey, a girl can dream, right?
There are times in our lives when we all want to cling to what is safe, and times when we want to ride free. Bust out of the boundaries of our safe routines.
But as women, if we dare to stretch too far, to change too much, it can feel as if we risk too much. The disapproval of our peers, our loved ones. Perhaps our church.
Lean in, girlfriend, and listen close. You can still be a biker babe at heart. And you don’t even have to go out and buy a Harley.
# 1 – Take Ownership of Yourself (& let others do the same)
I grew up in a family where the mood of the man of the house, my stepfather, determined the actions of everyone else in the home. And that meant we all—my mother and four girls—tiptoed around, fearing his wrath. ‘Cause when he was in a bad mood, which was nearly all the time, it was somehow OUR fault.
It took me years to move on from that bull-oney, even though I married a fine man without a single thought of being abusive. But I did, and you can too.
You’re a grownup, right? That means you are responsible for what goes on inside your head. No one can put you in a bad emotional place but you.
Biker babes own their own feelings. And they expect their significant others to do the same
So if anyone in your life tries to blame their moods on you, tell ‘em to take a ride and cool off.
# 2 – Act as if You’re Confident and Before You Know it, You Will Be
My mother, bless her heart, believed that girls should be pretty, quiet, and winsome. I was none of those things as a child. Eventually my ebullience and happy enthusiasm for life leaked out of me like the air out of a balloon. I dove into books & art and spent most of my childhood there. Middle school—ugh. High school—a little better.
College was a revelation. Suddenly I was among strangers. I could be anyone I wanted to be. Let the inner biker babe emerge! I was accepted as a fun person, with none of my nerdy backstory clinging to me.
I’m much older now, but I still ‘act as if’ when I need to in large groups, or when I must speak publicly. And you can too. It’s amazing how dressing up a little, whether it’s in your best jeans & shirt, or a skirt & heels, putting a big smile on your face, and walking in like you’re thrilled to be there can make everyone believe it.
Including you—and you’re the most important one, babe. ‘Cause if you believe it, you’ll get the most out of wherever you are.
# 3 – You are Never Too Old to Be Fabulous
We’ve all seen those lists, right? ‘Things Women Over 40 Should Never Wear’, or ‘Stop Doing These When You Turn 50’ and my personal least-favorite, ‘How to Stay Active When You’re Over 60’.
Uh, why the heck wouldn’t I stay active? I’m over 60, not dead!
My inner biker babe says ‘The heck with all you people writing silly lists with click-bait titles. If it suits me, and I want to do it, wear it, or dance to it, I will!’
And don’t talk to yourself that way, either.
I had my first book published when I was 50 and published my first indie book when I was 60. Forty books later, I’m thinkin’ age has nothing to do with it.
It’s all about attitude. Matter of fact, all 3 of my biker babe tips are really about attitude, aren’t they?
So, get one, girlfriend. You deserve it.
Cathryn Cade is the author of 40+ published romance novels. She began writing in Sci Fi Romance and moved on to spicy Contemporary Romance. After a hiatus of 2 years, she is gratefully back to writing, working on Book 11 in her Honey Series, about sexy alpha bikers and the women who tame them. You can learn more about all of her books and places to reach her in social media on her author website.
